rant about family BS
as a parent, my life is 90% about my kids, and when my wife is out of town for work that rises to 95% or more. So if you are a family member, and you invite yourself over to our house while I'm solo parenting, you had better f*cking do so in a way that makes their lives better not worse. And bear in mind that making me run around nagging them to clean up while I run around cleaning up after them is already making it worse, so you're playing catch-up.
rant about family BS
oh and the family member in question has kids of her own. So it's not like this is about "it never occurred to me because I'm not a parent". No, it's more of an "I don't need to respect this person or try to understand what they're going through so i'm not even going to try" thing. if anything I feel like my childless friends are more considerate about it
rant about family BS
leaving your house that is 7+ hours of holiday and bad weather driving away from me at 10AM such that you're guaranteed to show up and expect to be fed and given a bed and not have to meaningfully interact with the kids (who have been asking all day when you are arriving and who you even are since you've been avoiding them for years and why do we have to clean up for them) is f*cked up