rant about family BS
as a parent, my life is 90% about my kids, and when my wife is out of town for work that rises to 95% or more. So if you are a family member, and you invite yourself over to our house while I'm solo parenting, you had better f*cking do so in a way that makes their lives better not worse. And bear in mind that making me run around nagging them to clean up while I run around cleaning up after them is already making it worse, so you're playing catch-up.
rant about family BS
oh and the family member in question has kids of her own. So it's not like this is about "it never occurred to me because I'm not a parent". No, it's more of an "I don't need to respect this person or try to understand what they're going through so i'm not even going to try" thing. if anything I feel like my childless friends are more considerate about it